Fear has been on the best seller’s list worldwide since the beginning of time. The fear of the unknown. The fear of disappointment. The fear of not being enough. The fear of success. The fear of loneliness. The fear of love. The fear of missing out. The fear of being replaced. The fear of rejection. The fear of tomorrow. The fear of growth.

Some of us have had more opportunities at said growth; yet the crippling fear of the unknown seems to be the strongest unseen energy on the planet. There’s a lot more in the world than just the very limited information your internal household has taught you. If that is the sole gospel a person will live on; then why would that person leave the family home? You will find that many people don’t even explore or learn about the city they were born or currently live in. They tend to stay in that limited comfort zone of flavor, experiences, creativity, and limited options.

How many people are in a career or job they can run circles around because they know it so well? At the same time, they’ve been at the same desk for 10-20 years; but does that mean success? I would say no; though I’m not saying they are failures just comfortable. For me, it shows a lack of self-belief or maybe laziness for some. I do know that not everyone is created a leader or wants the responsibility of leadership. Even when companies create a great product, they occasionally need to make some tweaks to keep up with an evolving world.

There’s also those who have been involved in relationships intimate or platonic for years. The catch is that relationships do not bring happiness, satisfaction, or the feeling of mutual love. Thinking maybe that’s the only situation for me? Who would love or like to spend time with me? News flash, we’re in a very large world with billions of humans; and the odds are there’s someone for everyone; therefore, hold on and find your cup of unique. However, just note that not many people outside of the self-loathing community will subscribe to that misery program. You like something about a person, hopefully part of their personality; then you ask, “Would you like to hang out, or would you…” The worst that can happen is that person replying,”I’m not interested,” and guess what, no broken bones involved.

Unfortunately, we have too many in society that go against their own self interests. For instance, certain communities own the vast majority of the country’s wealth. The sad part is their insecurities about not being enough cripples them. For instance, the Black community has been ostracized from many aspects of financial growth. In part, by internal taught hatred, and the other by a deeply seated insecurity of being surpassed in the circle of life. News flash, the broken education system has worked overtime to put a wedge into the development of certain communities; and even if let’s say reparations were finally giving to the black community many wouldn’t know how to manage it; therefore much of it would expeditiously go right back into the pockets of those that have looked down on them for centuries; hence making some of the original hoarders more wealthy.

Once a person believes in oneself, the fear of tomorrow is minimized because you understand your unique value. When you believe in you, that promotion or new job is worth putting your hat into the conversation. When you have faith in you, asking that person for that date can be the start of a new rainbow. When you believe in you, there’s no need to allow simple-minded hatred to get in the way of another person’s growth. When you believe in you, the fear of growth is unlocked, and it’s contagious.

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.  The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” -Theodore Roosevelt 26th U.S. President

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