Don’t Be Afraid, It’s Only A Conversation…

If you aren’t a part of my peace or my growth, then you’re an enemy to my future/present. Remove the makeup, the suits, the fake body parts, the steroid induced image, the job title, the jewelry, and then show me who you are. Never mind the initial title of a family member, colleague, neighbor, boyfriend, or girlfriend… Not everyone we’ve known longer than 5 minutes wants the best for you/us. Some people never want/ want to see you gain more than they can see for themselves. (Misery Loves Company)

Not every mother or father wants the best for their very own children. So many have never dealt with their own childhood drama/trauma, then play tag by adding it onto the innocent children that did not ask to be in this world via unprepared or undeserving parents. How many people have created kids into unhealthy situations because they wanted to bring in a cash dependent that will never leave them lonely. Now you can see this at many award ceremonies when a budding star accepts that trophy, then says my mother made so many sacrifices for me… How about a parent allowing a kid to be in the moment for themselves and not living through them as parasites. In my understanding, keeping a roof over head, food in the fridge, and clothes on backs are the bare minimum of the legal requirements after a moment of passion.

Funny how so many line up to accept the credit for any amount of successes; yet are on a far away planet when it comes down to accepting responsibility for personally training a terrorist, rapist, murderer, abuser, racist, corrupt officer/judge/politician/, journalist or health care CEO… Nope, somehow they’re able to skate right past that accountability section while coming out smelling more roses of sympathy. Theirs also the league of parents that create children to provide them the illusion of what they themselves wish they had as a child. Not what they needed but what they wanted. Yet so many wonder why theirs an abundance of modern-day youth with minimal respect or appreciation for life. They’ve lived in a delusional Disneyland of whatever you want, honey. Then, at 15 or so, when they hear No for the first time, yep, it’s time to shoot up the school of innocents because they didn’t like me.

Some people are in relationships intimate or platonic just for the company. If one notices, there’s constant focus on that great time we had back when; yet when analyzed, you think have they ever encouraged your growth or success? Subconsciously, your success means you might see how little they’ve added to your life, and obviously, you’ll leave them the moment things get better. Not every relationship ends or changes because a person has done wrong. Sometimes, we have to choose to keep moving forward, versus turning in circles and expecting growth. Also, it’s not about becoming a new person but adding to the person you want to be.

The hiring manager or supervisor that got the job due to what they look like or who they know. Now, the company’s growing or maintaining and needs to add on. How often have you seen under-qualified people getting positions simply because the underserving lead doesn’t want to be overshadowed with greatness? There are too many people comfortable in a position they should have been promoted out of years prior; and they see motivation/ambition as a threat. I myself have had contracts working with business owners who could not handle someone who garnered more attention than themselves. And to their detriment decided to go a different direction because they’re not equipped to share the light or not be the sole reason a solution exists; especially when its uncovered that they are part of the problem.

As for myself, I’ve previously been in a relationship that whenever a promising opportunity presented itself, the internal ugliness of my “partner” did the same. She would create a new crisis that demanded my attention if I cared about her, just to ensure I wouldn’t find too much success and leave her for a better person. I’ve worked for companies when I was naive enough to share all my ambitions for growth, while certain employees were comfortable in their stalemate adamantly stated, You need to stop rocking the boat and slow down, you’re working too damn hard… For example, regardless of my qualifications, I had military recruiters pushing me to be enlisted versus becoming an officer. School guidance counselors insisting I look for (dangerous) labor intensive work versus considering attending any university. My father that said why are you working so hard at practice?” You won’t make it any further than I ever did...

If we stay in the company of utter misery, it’s a choice. Yes, the very next step is unknown and many times hard, but full of potential. We do not need to marinate in the perfected misery of others. There’s enough resources and sunshine for us all. If your current company or company is keeping a dark shadow over your head, there’s the next job, person, block, city, state, country, and the world that’s waiting for your contributions. None of us had a choice in when, where, who, or how we were born; but, we all have the ability to move forward and grow beyond the enemy’s smile.

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