How often have you heard the phrase? It’s not right to judge anyone? That has to be one of the most ignorant copouts of accountability and / or internal guilt. When people throw out responses that do not align with their very own actions, it is pure hypocrisy. And no, this isn’t pointing at one group; regardless if it’s utilized more successfully from one group. Today, there’s no shortage of escape clauses from accepting the receipt of one’s own actions. Just imagine going to your favorite restaurant and finishing a nice meal, including drinks and dessert. Though, when the waiter brings the bill for everything you’ve already consumed, including their time, you get offended by the total of what you already agreed to when you ordered and consumed with delight.

That has been the reality for so many and it’s becoming an epidemic today. There’s no shortage of people who are willing to share in the experience at the moment; nor those that will join and create more excuses for the one’s in said moment. No, the offense comes when the person on the outside of the experience verbalizes what the previous person or group just did. Somehow, the gaslighting is on high-alert, and the counters are flowing better than a championship boxing match. You know it’s not right to judge. The hell you say! So anyone can be on the tail end of the experience you or your group created; but the actual bad person is the one brave enough to be honest about what just took place? How does that math work? Look at a certain powerful religious group that has experienced their horrible part of history and receives empathy as well as reparations to rebuild to become a new world dynasty. This same group condones despicable behaviors of anti…as long as you look like them; and condemns those that do not while benefiting on how they do the same while exploiting others.

There are current groups that do diabolical things to themselves and / or to others; yet when someone says, hey, you just did this…or that… and it’s not right. There’s an immediate outrage for the person with the ability to verbalize what was witnessed/experienced. Then the avalanche of weak excuses starts flowing: It’s not right to judge.  You’re being negative.  That’s God’s job.  It was only one time.  That was so long ago. So as long as you have a history with this person/group that performed questionable deed(s), you become Stevie Wonder to the reality; but the jerk is the one with the moral compass? Hmmm.

How about this for those that have been raised within The Church, or a whole family, or educated, or basic common sense. 100% of sentient beings judge/assess what’s in front of them. I’m not focused on the very first thought, but the actions behind the second and so on. When we walk through doors to go outside, we assess/judge what the weather is like. When we go to a restaurant, we assess/judge if it’s clean, inviting, and if other people are enjoying the food. When we meet a person, we assess/judge how they present themselves. When we shake a person’s hand, we assess/judge if this person is aggressive, soft, or nervous. When a person applies for a job, we assess/judge if they seem confident or professional for the needed position. This is as normal as breathing, yet the one thing that’s offensive is accountability if said assessment isn’t flattering.

I’m a communicator/protector and have been since my abused childhood; therefore, I’ve spent my life fighting for others to be aware of themselves and the life of others. It is not negative to speak on the actions that a person or group has done; it’s called a verbal transcription. If you have a problem with anyone speaking out against your very own actions, then stop doing the ignorant actions. So many aren’t offended by the ignorance that negatively affects the masses; yet are in outrage when the transcript comes out. I will not put my brain in hibernation because your family and social circle refuse to hold you accountable to your very own actions. For instance, within the genders, one particular group screams equality; but that seems to have been a misused word choice. The transcript shows many within this group require special treatment like a buffet; therefore, picking and choosing the sections that are desirable. No one seems to be outraged when the hostage negotiator says, “At least let the … and …go. Or how about the free before 11 establishments? Or check and see what that sound was. Or who has child custody regardless of qualifications.

It doesn’t matter what your political affiliation is. It doesn’t matter what your gender is. It doesn’t matter what your home of origin is. But some have more passes than others because of their skin tone and / or gender. Some can rip apart the opposite sex for not fitting their childhood ideals of fitness (including height), social status, and bank account; then again scream foul play if their actions or lack there of are mentioned. One of the two parents has a bullseye of accountability on their backs and the other flowers. Corporations are an example of all the rights of a citizen, with many benefits; but none of the accountability. Politicians across the board seem to have minimal human consciousness, while taking so many benefits they refuse to share among the masses they’re supposed to be working for; yet how often we the gullible participate and give them unlimited passes to continually burn us all without any accountability?

The more honest conversations we all have, the easier the digestion. If we start with more parents being honest with their children, we would have more adults capable of having a civilized conversation without crying this person is attacking me. Not everything little Johnny, Suzy, Antwan does is great, and they can survive knowing that. We would have less violence like school shootings. We would have more consciousness to do and be better, then work harder after a failure. More people would have a better understanding of their own value and not live in their imaginations. We can bridge that gap of community and humanity. There’s enough for all of us to thrive, regardless if many will choose to stay in their situations; none-the-less, we can strengthen the fragility of privilege and grow together.

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