Civility: formal politeness and courtesy in behavior or speech: I hope we can treat each other with civility and respect.

As XX and XY chromosomes, we were designed to compliment each other. When you add in broken communication built on greed or pain, the outcomes don’t typically add up to a positive result. We so often have heard the statement, The Battle of the Sexes; yet, it’s been the battle of humanity that has spread like cancer in an engulfing wildfire.

Yes throughout history there’s been enough bad charactered males, but what’s typically conveniently left out is the female partners that accompanied or directed them. Example: how often have people heard mothers and some fathers arguing not my son with the 25 sexual assault charges, because he’s handsome and has money… This dangerous buffet selection of historical accountability has damaged more than the eye can see. We the XX and XY are built very different to accomplish a vast array of life’s tasks together. There’s no point in bragging about the nice looking furniture and decorations if there’s no roof overhead.

The partnership that use to be was magnanimous, and for generations outside of the slave holder families, accomplished world changing growth. But greed and envy doesn’t seem to sleep. Some partners wanted the exact life as the other, if not more in many cases. So instead of growing together, some started to poison the well from the inside. Many started teaching their offspring how to take and take; versus adding, providing and supporting. There’s not much positivity that comes from greed. Take a look for yourself, how many of the power families actually look in love or truly happy?

One group seems to have woke up and chose a war on the opposite sex and it doesn’t matter how its negatively effecting the internal or external members. The concept of a team or partnership, is become something for museums, with so many having reversed the abuse that was common in a handful of households and now one side can utilize their chromosomes for destruction without the side affects of accountability. How long are we going to say it’s okay for a parent to destroy the developing make–up of a male child; while lifting up the female to be a male with ovaries? Not saying that some of these internally damaged males haven’t been involved; but they don’t get a public platform to brag about turning their daughters into virtual prostitutes (only fans…) sexualizing oneself for the bag or attention; then, lying to each other claiming it’s your power. News flash, we can’t recover our donated sexuality and at the same time expect many to treat us as if we’re still holding newly untouched value.

There is so much we can accomplish together as we were designed to; yet that becomes increasingly more difficult when one side seems to need to win or beat the other. Even in simple conversations that both parties can learn something from; can be used against the choice of growth. That growth is stalled when one side tries to break the other, then if someone says “you just did this… or that“ now the response is the newly found Anti–Accountability–Act (AAA) “Why are you attacking me?” It is fully okay to publicly rip apart and demean the XY however one feels fit, especially labeling one a deadbeat, or too short, or too fat, or too broke, or too ugly or… or… or… Yet the very moment someone questions their actions, they’re instantly absolved of any accountability, then given public excuses along with sympathy. So the example is if the XY doesn’t want a child, that’s a deadbeat who’s on the financial hook for at least 18 years; however if the XX doesn’t want to deal with the consequences of becoming a parent and deletes said responsibility, “you are so strong“. How about trapping someone into an 18 year (one-sided) legal contract, they are doing what they must, Right?

Despite what I see and witness on a regular basis, I refuse to believe anything other than a right is right, and a wrong is wrong; regardless of gender. That’s the basis of true equality that many have zero desire to obtain. There’s not much public outrage when the XY side of the chromosome group are being dragged in the mud. In actuality if accusations are made it is the exact opposite of the legal system claims; of innocent until proven guilty. When everything can be lost over an unstantiated claim towards destruction. I don’t want to hear the garbage, “what about the baby?” Did the party that decided to harbor said offspring, not now that they lived in a 10×10 apartment and eating top-ramen beforehand; if so why should this person be praised for making a bad decision for all parties involved?

I’m an actual believer in equality. Not that everyone will perform the same with the same tools; but that’s the only way to truly claim equality, if everyone is held to the same level of accountability towards actions. If one or more groups weren’t allowed to routinely hit the restart button against accountability, then maybe we restart developing people to act like better humans. As a parent, it’s impossible for me to believe a great outcome will happen from generations witnessing the Anti-Acountability–Act (AAA) of certain groups. e.g. This person went through an easy plausible breakup, then hoes themselves out to feel wanted= rewarded. e.g. This person gets dumped because the partner went for the better bag, and responds by treating new partners like garbage bags= rewarded. (How often do we see XX swooning over the jerk?) e.g. This person is financially struggling, so let me trick someone into getting me an 18+ year free money contract= rewarded. If you can accept and thrive on public assistance, and having the audacity to claim you’re doing it on your own; then me the tax payer and financial supporter of your choices can absolutely comment on how your abusing my contributions.

The point is let’s stop rewarding bad characters from exploiting the broken system, then playing the victim card like an AMEX. Yes, I’m fully aware some will feel outraged, mainly due to the mirror I provide on paper and in life. No groups should receive passes due to their ethnicity, gender or family’s net worth. We are globally looking at such massive breakdowns in society, that could have easily been avoided. How you ask? Great question! By doing the simple thing and actually standing up against the double standards towards expectations of doing the right thing. We all know what we don’t want to happen to ourselves, then don’t expect others to be okay experiencing the very same. I don’t care if it’s your mother, co–worker, employer, government, neighbor, children, or lover; so just stop being a great alibi for bad characters.

Why should gender have anything to do with the accountability of a crime?

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